How do I let go of a man I dreamt of living with for the rest of my life?

I saw myself waiting for him at home, with chinese dishes and soup, and the kids playing on the floor.

They'd be screaming and running to the door when he walks in, then he'll tell them they're noisy, but carry them anyways.

I'll heat up the food and we'll all eat.

There'll be a mess.

Years from that, the kids will be off to school, we'll get Mondays off to do the groceries and everything else, we'll quarrel over which brand of shower gel to buy, and whether we have eggs in the fridge. I'll be mildly irritated, but he carries almost everything and I'd take the lighter bags. Then we'll go home and just put on a movie, or sleep, or doing individual things like him working on the sermon while I watch videos in the kitchen and put out the stuff needed for the day's dinner, until it's time to pick them up.

He'll be scolding them for misbehaviours once in a while, and I'll be nagging him to bring out the trash bin for garbage day.

We'd fight sometimes over silly things, but I saw a different Cheryl and Dave. Cheryl would be motherly and kinda like Auntie Cecelia. Behind her husband but doing great things, supporting him in every way. With her friends she's loud and chatty. With Dave, she'd be goofy and girly, sometimes acting tough but still melting when he says what he wants and needs and sees. Dave would be funny when guest are over, but more quiet when nobody is around. Some people might still think he's icey and proud, but he does everything so well if needed. For less important things, he spends very little time on it. He's efficient.

I see so many more things. How do I achieve them?